The word "normal" comes from the Latin roots that indicate "made according to the square" as in a carpenter's square. So, you have this tool - it is inanimate and does not move... therefore it does not change. Hence, you make something using it or according to it and you get... something square, right? That's normal. That follows the norm. Makes sense.
But to say something is "not normal" or a person is "not normal" is to indicate that there is something "off" or "different" or "not quite right" with it/him/her. You tracking? I am "not normal" in that i can feel a UTI before it develops and can take steps to ward it off. Never had a full-blown UTI in my life thanks to this "abnormality." I am "not normal" because i have bunions on both feet and cannot shop for shoes in "normal" sizes or "normal" stores like the rest of the planet. I get to spend way more money for this "abnormality," incidentally, than the average shoe-buyer spends. I am "not normal" when it comes to my taste buds because God blessed me with an overdeveloped sense of taste combined with a texture sensitivity.
Last week, i caught a bit of Joyce Meyer on television while on vacation. She was talking about the power of words. I have heard it before; i get it. There is inherent power in the spoken word. Negativity breeds negativity; we know that. But she specifically said, "be careful what you say about your children." and. i. was. crushed.
What have i done? How many times have i said my children are "not normal" or "different" in some way? Especially over the last few months as i have spent oodles of time and money researching Sensory Processing Disorder (a.k.a. Sensory Integration Disorder). Oh. Wow. Darnit!
Well, i can't take it back, but i can start changing my vocabulary. My children are not normal... but that is because the Carpenter Who made them doesn't use a "square" - He uses His heart, His hands, His eyes, His breath, and His Words. The Potter Who created us began with a Thought, an Idea, and a Dream.
The power of the spoken word created this world, and it is the essence of each of us. And we are NOT square. We are unique, colorful, quirky, and radiant.
I choose to embrace my differences, seek out the uniqueness in each of my children, and stop letting the word "normal" have so much sway in my life. My children are exactly what God intended them to be... which, needless to say, is not a bunch of squares.